Stop Raising little assholes
𝘋𝘰𝘯'𝘵 𝘢𝘱𝘰𝘭𝘰𝘨𝘪𝘻𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘬𝘪𝘥.
𝗠𝗔𝗞𝗘 𝗧𝗛𝗘𝗠 𝗗𝗢 𝗜𝗧.
I was entering a sporting event recently just as a group of 12 year old-ish volleyball players were leaving the building.
As I approached the heavy door I made eye contact through the window with one of the girls. A second or so passed and she forcefully pushed the door right into my face…. and then laughed.
𝘐𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘯'𝘵 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘯𝘺. 𝘐𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘵𝘵𝘺.
"Say you're sorry to the lady" the mom perfunctorily replied, looking not that phased.
Instead of an apology, the girl laughed like she was the queen of comedy performing for her juvenile audience and she promply skipped off with her teammates.
The mom looked at me, shrugged her shoulders, half-smiled at me and with a luke warm reply, "sorry 'bout that...you know how kids are."
Um no.
Maybe 𝘠𝘖𝘜𝘙 kids.
Not mine. Because I don't parent that way.
IF my kids had been all hyped up and done the same thing, I would have yanked their ass right back, whether they meant to or not, had them look the person in the EYES and APOLOGIZE.
Period.
My style is that I DON’T CARE if it embarrasses you in front of your friends. You're not going to be an asshole.
Look, we all parent differently, I get that, but apologizing FOR YOUR KID in this scenario is not ok.
Not only was the kid's behavior crappy, intentional and could have hurt someone, but it could have been a great opportunity to TEACH HER about showing respect to others, being accountable for her actions and the gift of apologizing to someone.
Instead, she reinforced her child's asshole behavior by not holding her accountable and (barely) apologized FOR HER.
And we wonder why it is that kids show 𝙨𝙤 𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩 to others nowadays.
Being that "nice parent" by not holding your kid accountable only TEACHES them THEY don't have to have consequences for how they treat others.
To that mom: While I know you probably “meant well” you're actually doing her a bigger favor by holding her accountable.
Trust me.
𝙎𝙩𝙤𝙥 𝙧𝙖𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙝𝙤𝙡𝙚𝙨.
